And each time - when nothing changes - you feel worse and worse about yourself because it feels like you're completely stuck in this infinite loop, like Groundhog Day, only you can't seem to break the cycle...Okay, let me finish my story about what happened at that bar...
How to approach a friend about dating
Take a second right now and imagine how different your life would be if you could just manage to overcome this blockade - this barrier - in your thinking that stops you from talking to the women you want.
what other people in your life would think about you if you could erase that invisible barrier between you and the moment where you take ACTION...
We call this the "back turn," and it's one of those experiences guys hate more than anything.
You get that sick feeling of not just being ignored, but de-valued as well.
In every one of these situations where I wanted to approach a woman, I noticed that there was this point in time - just a few seconds after I saw her - where if I didn't do something right away, I knew I would not be approaching that woman or talking to her.
It just wasn't going to happen if I waited beyond any time at all past that point.
Even though she didn't actually do it or say it out loud, you feel like she just laughed and called you a loser.
And it makes you feel like And the worst part is that you don't feel like it's something you could even describe to anyone else, because you feel like it's your problem alone.
I kept seeing groups of girls come in, and leave, and come in... " It could have been simple, but for some reason you just couldn't do it at the time.
The more times this happens to you, the more emotionally worked-up you get.
(I think I must have gone through "Big Trouble in Little China" about ten times...) Between working at an office with only 4 people and sitting at home playing computer games, I wasn't meeting ANYONE. I was determined to meet these women, because I hadn't had a date in (probably longer than that, now that I think about it), and I was starting to go stir-crazy. "The longer I stayed there, the worse it got, because I had NO IDEA where to begin." How do you just go up and talk to a person you've never met before?