My over-analytical mind reasoned that if I was friendly, guys might think I was interested. But refusing to show kindness to someone because he or she might get the wrong impression is hardly Christian behavior.Christ compels us to “love one another” (John -35).Furthermore, it can, on occasion, be a way of controlling our situations in the midst of fear instead of trusting God to protect us.
What came of realizing my own selfishness and legalism transformed everything.
By drawing my own lines and telling God how our relationship ought to look, I foolishly denied God the prerogative which belongs to Him only.
The phrase stems from Proverbs , which instructs, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4 sounds a beautiful call toward wisdom and away from evil and perversity.
However, as a young woman, I essentially substituted the word “men” for the word “evil.” As a result, smiling and waving at a guy friend became difficult, let alone having any meaningful conversation with a member of the opposite sex.
Putting faith foremost removes a reliance on rules.
Christians are often very good rule-followers but poorer God-followers.
Oswald Chambers writes about how believers should pursue the art of abandonment.
Perhaps the best way to guard our hearts is to abandon them to Jesus.
Friends teased, “Leave room for Jesus,” or “Keep a Bible between you; and not an electronic version.” Despite our mutual love affair with rules, we sidled up to the edge of the line.
And I began to realize that guidelines prove flexible. If I determine the rules, then I determine how much I care to obey God when He calls me to purity of heart, mind and body.
It would prove difficult to count the number of times I’ve heard the “Guard your heart” lesson, whether in books, at conferences or in podcasts.