You can't be calm, loving, patient or gentle with your partner or yourself if all your mental and emotional energy is going toward the other person.
You don't want your relationship to start feeling like a caretaking role — and trust me, neither does your partner.
If helping your partner manage their medications makes you feel better and keeps them more balanced, great.
If it makes you feel resentful and stressed out, and your partner feel hen-pecked, then don't do it.8.
And that’s because I’m going to have to tell this sweet, young thing that I have bipolar disorder ().
And, because it’s what I do for a living, I have to tell her on the first date.
They may not have the same ideas as you about how to get treatment. Let go of the idea that you can heal your significant other or that your love can save them.
If I had my way, my husband would have been scarfing fish oil like it was beer, contacting his inner zen daily, eating a perfectly balanced diet and taking regular strolls in nature to reconnect. Letting go of the way things used to be before the disease take hold. Let go of thinking if your partner would just "try harder," then they wouldn't act ill when having a bipolar episode. Many people with bipolar have to try more than one or two medications, or combinations of medications, before they find something that works for them.
On the other hand, if someone is going to reject you for an illness that is not your fault and that you didn’t ask for, early rejection isn’t really so bad.
It hurts less when someone you don’t really know rejects you rather than someone who you’ve invested some emotion into. I can really only hope that those things will balance that bipolar thing out.
We became best friends, and two years later he married another woman and had a baby.
Fast forward six years: we were madly in love and engaged, then married.
Even if you understand mental illness (I was already struggling with anxiety and depression when my husband was diagnosed), you don't know what it's going to look like in a particular person.