It is actually meant to be a time where both parties separate so they can have space and time to make a very important decision that will affect their life and the lives of those around them.It is not the time to be looking for the next person in your life.Jennifer's, Samantha's and John's concerns are common, because according to the U. Census Bureau, 19.3 million Americans get divorced each year, and many of them date and eventually remarry.
I was a single Pastor for 13 years and I sometimes get asked questions that other Pastors are not asked simply because they think that my former marital status will change my perspective on the issue.
What they don’t realize is that I am a pastor that has made more than his fair share of mistakes in my life.
You are about to break your covenant with God and your spouse.
It is supposed to be a time of deep introspection and gravity, instead of feeling “free and ready to play”.
Like Jennifer, she needs some advice but is concerned about how she can make the transition into dating easy on her children. He'd like to date again, and some of his friends say he should start looking for a woman now — after all, he's getting divorced soon.
But John knows better because he's still married, and dating now would go against God's desires.And as with any loss, big or small, time is needed to grieve and to reassess who you are, where you've been and where God wants you to go.Healing is also necessary to follow God's command to" do unto others what you would have them do unto you," (Matthew ).If you clutter that time with other hearts and attractions you severely cloud the waters and make it obvious that you have no desire for reconciliation.Reconciliation may not always be possible, but do not make it impossible by your actions.Damage to a person in this drastic of a manner takes a season of healing before they will be ready to marry. Not only does it take a season of healing, but it takes a season of dealing with the issues that caused the divorce in the first place. It takes two to make a marriage and it takes two to end a marriage.