And speaking of entering and exiting: while proper etiquette dictates that the woman is the one who is supposed to go first, there is one exception – the elevator. This is probably so that in the unlikely case that there is no elevator, the female will remain safe. Russian women are allowed to be late for any meeting or event – it’s practically a law.If your date is 10-15 minutes late, take it easy – she is more or less right on time according to local standards. They can be understandable –she was stuck in traffic or had to work late; not-so-understandable – she simply could not decide if a certain pair of shoes went with a particular dress; or just plain ridiculous – she arrived on time, but spent 20 minutes hanging out just around the corner so that she wouldn’t seem too clingy.Decide where you’re going for dinner and then invite her there. It’s not that Russian women don’t like to make decisions – in fact, in a lot of Russian relationships, women have the upper hand; it’s just that showing assertiveness shows that you’ll be able to match her decisiveness rather than leaving her to do all the work.
Or is it a hint meaning you’d better get some chocolate and roses?
Unfortunately, the only way to proceed is trial-and-error, and it involves a lot of trying and an even greater number of errors.
Not to generalize too much, but many Russian men can be quite rough, and you can stand out by being considerate, compassionate, and generally making sure she’s comfortable, happy, and listened-to.
Stay away from the stereotypical “nice-guy” territory – you don’t want to seem like a wimp – but listen to her and her wishes in a gallant way.
Wear basics that are made of high-quality material, are relatively fashionable (e.g.
no boot-cut light-wash denim and sneakers) and you’ll definitely be in her good books.If you are not Russian and interested in dating a Russian girl, you may need a bit of an instruction manual.While the basic rules of dating etiquette obviously apply, there are a few quirks that Russian girls have that sometimes create conflict between girls from Russia and men from the West (trust me, I know from experience!Russian men can be almost aggressively assertive, and while you want to stay away from that end of the spectrum, you definitely don’t want to come off as indecisive or letting her make all the decisions.Keep it at a good balance, but especially at the beginning of a relationship, you want to make sure that you take control when necessary.Many Russian men are still stuck in a very traditional conception of gender roles, and it is a common assumption of Russian women that Western men are more accepting of women’s changing role in society.