3.) One partner has unpredictable mood swings – Explain to your child that a partner who suddenly reverts from normal to angry or sad is displaying abnormal behavior.
Young women often feel that it is their responsibility to solve problems within the relationship, and may hold themselves to blame for their partner’s moods.
4.) Alcohol or drug abuse – Substance abuse is often the sign of a larger behavioral problem.
Teens may be trying to medicate themselves with drugs or alcohol, or substance abuse may lead to abusive behavior.
These signs include: 1.) Extreme jealousy and/or controlling behavior – Teens, unfamiliar with healthy relationships, may feel that jealousy or controlling behavior is “romantic” or a sign that their partner “truly loves them.” Further, young men (and even some young women) may feel that they “possess” their partners and jealousy and controlling behavior are signs of love.
Controlling behavior can include dictating a partners dress and mannerisms, habits, and social life.
Abusive partners are self-centred, immature, manipulative, can't appreciate the views or needs of others, shift blame onto others, don't take responsibility for the bad things they do or say, are possessive and treat people like their property, and put others down to feel good about themselves.
They are disrespectful and may have problems keeping their emotions under control.
They may also feel that they will lose “face” or “respect” if they show attentiveness or caring to their partners.
They may also feel that they have the right, as a man, to demand sex.
2.) Quick involvement – Watch for relationships that seem to crop up out of nowhere.
Abusers often pinpoint victims who will allow for quick, intense involvement to the exclusion of other friends, parents, and a healthy social life.
9.) Blames others for problems or feelings – An inability to accept responsibility for failings and shortcomings can be a sign of the inability to deal with a relationship in a mature manner.